Top 3 Lessons About Insecurities To Learn Before You Hit 30.

 “The reason we struggle with insecurity is that we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s reel.”

We’re going to have to let truth scream louder to our souls than the lies that have infected us. 

I did not write a blog last week; I was away enjoying the festive season in India. It was Diwali, Hindu New Year, and I had spent some sweet time with my family. 

When I wake up in the morning, I dedicate an hour to myself. My morning includes exercising, meditation, journaling, reading a book. I love to take a walk in nature too. It is so soothing to walk in the open sky. I love to walk around the lush green trees, witnessing the sunrise. It sounds so cliché how the writers describe in novels, but I love that experience.

When I am doing dishes in the morning, it takes me around 30 minutes or so, and I get so many ideas during that time. I start making plans about my blogs, improving my limiting beliefs, and forming new habits. Sometimes I visit my past thinking how naïve I was. I wasted so much time doing wrong things; those but and ifs start forming an infinite loop.

The instant I get the thought, I start listening to the podcast. I listen to my favourite Jay Shetty’s – On Purpose podcast. I have learnt so much from him. I came across his podcast; it was about dealing with insecurities. 

Don’t you think we all have insecurity?

Don’t you think we all have moments where insecurity have made us worse?

Do you know insecurity takes different forms?

Do you if you don’t do anything about it; it makes everything worse?

When was the last time you felt insecure? Do you remember? 

What did you do to overcome your insecurity? 

The study shows that 59% of people face body imaging issues. Those comments are from other people with whom we don’t have to deal. We have to deal with ourselves. We have to do inner work. For others, we may be fat, slim, healthy, unhealthy. They may see us a vibrant, dull, ugly or beautiful it does not matter.

Our insecurities come from our minds. Communicate with your thoughts. The voice or signal is telling you that you need to improve. Dealing with insecurity can help you when you start accepting yourself.

What matters to you is how do you see yourself? What do you look when you look in the mirror? Do you see your body, or do you see yourself as a soul? Do you recognize your abilities and qualities?

Here are the top 3 lessons you can do to deal with your insecurities.

• Recognize your Qualities and Abilities: Take a piece of paper. Make a partition on the left side name it as Abilities and the right side as Qualities. For instance, I can write in the ability as I can listen to others problems. In the Qualities, I can write as I can help them to overcome them. List down all of them to see the best results. You can stick this to your desk or your vision board. Whenever you are in doubt, take a look and continue your work.

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• What habits do you practice? Our habits play an enormous part in our lives.
  
  Do you always say Yes to everyone?
  Do you criticize people often, even if it is nothing to do with you?
  Do you seek validation?

If the answer to your question is Yes, you have to start recognizing when to say No. Never fall into the trap of people pleaser; the road has no dead-end. It is okay to say No to things that do not fulfil your purpose. You often criticize people based on your insecurity. When you are not conscious of your ability and quality you lack to see the positive energy around you. Instead of doing some inner work, you are observing the output of someone. Stop seeking validation from others. You don’t have to ask whether you look beautiful in the dress you have bought. You don’t have to seek validation for investing in things that helps you in growing. 

We overcompensate for how about ourselves about the future.

Some people chase success and fame based on the unwanted feeling they have faced. Some people run after money because they understand money can buy happiness.

Your lack of healing is the result of insecurity. Overcome insecurity by following people who spread positivity. Practice Self-love, self-kindness and self-care. 

• Make sure to listen to people who add value to your life. 

• Surround yourself with people who can see your positive side. Someone who can help you overcome negative self-talk.

• Stop over trusting people; first, trust yourself. When you start believing in yourself, the universe will help you in unexpected ways.

• Look in the mirror and affirm that “You are good enough”. 

• Sit with yourself daily for 15 minutes and recognize which areas of your life you need to focus on

• Name your feelings whether you are feeling positive, sad, happy, frustrated. 

• Don’t be too hard on yourself. Take baby steps daily.

• Engage in activities that help you boost your confidence and self-esteem.

• Stop running after perfectionism and start working on improving yourself. 

• Adopt a Growth Mindset and overcome a fixed mindset. Shift your perception. 

• Be prepared for the challenges in life, never escape from reality.

• Be willing to try out different things and have a plan B.

• Practice gratitude for everything you have.

• Whenever in doubt, count your blessings.

• Celebrate your small wins and then plan big goals.

• Ask for help whenever you feel low or have a mentor to guide you.

• Live in the present moment. Don’t dwell in the past, and don’t worry about the future.

• Give yourself a pep talk. Treat yourself the way you treat your best friend. Don’t say mean things to yourself.

Break the negative cycle about your thoughts. All the above suggestions, tips and lessons will work when you believe in yourself. 

Let the magic inside you shine outside; let the darkness inside you ignite the light.
Let your power lead you towards your dream life.
Let your insecurities burn and your confidence sparkle wherever you go.