Your Relationship with Inner Child and Why no one talks about it

I have seen people asking about your relationship equation with your parents, siblings, friends, pets, and partner, but what about your relationship with your inner child.

A few months ago, when I was taking a session with my Mindset Coach, she asked me about my inner child healing, and I never paid attention to that; whatever we had learnt or heard was all about self-love and self-care rituals. She further explained that self-care and self-love are different from inner child healing. 

While I was in the session with her, I still remember I had cried for almost 10 minutes. I hugged myself and couldn’t stop crying. She allowed me some time, and I understood how important it is to heal your inner child. I started performing this activity twice a month. 

Since childhood, we have had many limiting beliefs, past traumas, childhood neglect, physical & verbal abuse and many other incidents. Fear, anxiety, and insecurities flow in our blood like oxygen, making us restless. When we tend to open our hearts in front of someone, thinking they will understand are the ones playing the games with us making our lives miserable. 

Instead of healing ourselves, we tend to suppress our emotions. We layer ourselves with many faces hiding our vulnerability. Instead of seeking help, we try to find shortcuts to escape problems. When you stop feeding your mind with toxicity, you will see the purpose; when you stop feeding your mind with negativity, you will feel how grateful you are for what you have.

Below are some of the rituals I do that can help you in your inner child healing

1. Apologize to yourself: Forgive yourself for all the mistakes you have made. Don’t fall into the trap of ‘I am not good enough.’ Whatever happened was all in the past. Live in the present moment.
2. Find a safe place to write down your feelings – I journal out a letter to my inner child and replace self-criticism with empathy. I remind myself of all the beautiful things I have done to date.
3. Visualize magical moments: Visualize the best moments you had as a child, what hobby you had, and which things made you happy and sit alone for some time.
4. Pay attention to your feelings: Never ignore or escape from your feelings; whatever you are feeling – sad, helpless, anxious, disappointed, talk with someone whom you can trust or write down and seek help.
5. Reassure yourself – I speak some positive affirmations whenever I feel in the trap of self-doubt. I reassure myself by taking some breaks too.
   1. Affirmations I use –
      1. I am protected and guided.
      2. I deserve all the love, happiness and success.
      3. I forgive myself for the mistakes I made.
6. Be kind to yourself – Don’t be too hard on yourself, don’t rush. Keep a check on your health, and never take yourself for granted. Everything will work out if you believe in yourself. Replace doubt with faith and see the magic happening.
7. Protect your boundaries: Many people are out there who are attention seekers. Don’t entertain them; say ‘No’ without feeling guilty. 

P.S. Never ignore your inner child. Heal from the past, forgive your mistakes, stop worrying about the future and live in the present.