I always thought ‘HOPE’ was an overrated word. From parents to teachers, from friends to strangers, everyone used the word ‘NEVER LOSE HOPE’ without explaining why not to lose hope when all seems hopeless.
One thing I learned in my life is that HOPE is associated with PATIENCE. When you keep patience in chaotic situations says a lot about your mindset. When you are calm, your mind works faster; your mind tries to find the solution rather than looking at the problem. We try to always run behind one or the other things without understanding what we want at this moment? Why are we doing all the hustle? Is it to prove someone else? Is it for your satisfaction? Is it your goal? Is it because you want to make your parents proud?
When I was feeling hopeless, I started asking the right questions. I found answers too, but only when I was patient with myself; only when I trusted that my beliefs in myself were more prominent than my doubts, and only when I started to find the purpose of doing all the hard work rather than expecting results. Setting an intention is very important.
A few days back, I was talking with one of my friends; she was complaining that everything in her life is working the opposite of what she wants, and nothing works out because every time she starts to do her task or goal, there is always fear attached to it. Fear turns your hope into a hopeless situation. Replace your doubt with faith, and you will understand the definition of HOPE soon.
To hope is not bad, but covering hope with fear is like driving your vehicle without the seat belt.
Sharing some tips when everything seems hopeless and how to keep hope:
- Stop overthinking: Ask yourself what you want at this moment. Neither tomorrow nor in three months. At this very moment or today, what do you want? What are your priorities?
- Breathwork: Take deep breaths. With each breath, release your anxiety, and try to calm your mind. A calm mind brings a better solution. When you are calm, you are focused. Don’t open multiple tabs in your mind; open the window that sees a better vision.
- Recall how you overcame your struggles: Not all days are the same, remind yourself that in the past you faced similar situations and how you overcame them. Today you are again in the same place so find the strength within yourself.
- Gratitude: Write three things you are grateful for in your life. Be it your family, your friends, the food you eat or the clothes you wear. There must be at least three things that are serving your needs.
- Don’t isolate yourself – Connect with friends or someone whom you trust. Talk with them.
- Find your happy places or your source of energy: Read a book, visit a cafe, walk barefoot in the garden, look at the clouds and click pictures of nature.
- Visit your vision: Remind yourself what you want to achieve. Don’t chase, create a plan and take one step at a time.
P.S. I hope things will work out because I believe in myself, let go of the things that don’t serve me and keep patience above everything.